Nico Lang: “Trampire:” Why the Public Slut Shaming of Kristen Stewart Matters for Young Women

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But for young women, the culture of slut shaming that the Kristen Stewart scandal represents won’t go away. I might not be concerned for K-Stew, but I am concerned for all the young women today who are tuned into this scandal, ones who are learning that it’s not okay to screw up, ever. Chris Brown can publicly beat the hell out of his girlfriend but still be played on the radio and win Grammys. However, if you ever cheat on your boyfriend, your life is over and no one will ever want to be associated with you. Almost no one will blame the much-older guy you cheated with, and it might actually make him more famous and help his career. Few will care that he was your boss and in a position of authority or that he may have have taken advantage of your youth and relative inexperience. Everything is your fault, and your life will be threatened over it. If you are a trampire, you will be publicly staked for it, even though cheater Ashton Kutcher recently emerged relatively unscathed by the media. No one asked for him to be fired from Two and a Half Men.

I might not be concerned for K-Stew, but I am concerned for my younger stepsister who has pictures of Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson on her walls, who idolizes and worships them, and who might grow up to hate Kristen Stewart for reasons she doesn’t understand. I’m worried she will be taught that it’s not okay to mess up, learn from it and apologize, because no one wants your apology, just your suffering on camera. I’m worried that she’ll think its okay to harass and threaten women for their indiscretions, even if men get off scot-free. I’m worried she will think this culture of bullying, slut-shaming and rhetorical violence against women is the norm, because you get a t-shirt for it. I’m worried she will learn to internalize the shame brought on far too many women today, for having sexualities, for not being perfect, for not fitting into a box. I’m worried she’ll believe men like Todd Akin, Paul Ryan and Mike Huckabee are right.

Because even if she doesn’t know who Akin, Ryan and Huckabee are, even if she doesn’t pay attention to politics or the radical right-wing GOP, she does pay attention to Twilight and Robsten. And if we want to empower her to be a strong, independently minded woman who knows that her body, sexuality and safety are legitimate and can stand up for her rights, we need to pay attention, too. This might seem ridiculous to us, and most people I know can’t wait to stop talking about it. But for her, having this conversation makes a difference. Although no young woman shouldn’t think it’s okay to cheat, what we are teaching them right now is so much worse.

Read more @ Nico Lang: “Trampire:” Why the Public Slut Shaming of Kristen Stewart Matters for Young Women.

 

I don’t like Robert  Pattinson or Kristin Stewart, and I think “Twilight” is a harmful piece of crap that promotes co-dependency and violence towards women.  However, that doesn’t excuse the public abuse of one young woman and her extremely stupid action. So what if she cheated on him? I think it was a crappy thing to do, yes. I’ve heard rumors that he cheated on her. Again, so what? That’s between her and him, not you and me and everyone else.

Stop sticking your gossipy noses in other people’s business and grow up a little.

 

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  1. Thank you for commenting. I’ve read your views, and I agree completely.

    Slut-shaming is wrong and it must stop.

  2. isabelletwitette

    I agree that Twilight’s a load of mysogynist bullshit, and I personally as a woman wouldn’t have anything to do with it. However, I still am outraged by this slut-shaming business. It’s such rubbish and I can’t believe it’s still happening in this day and age http://twitettes.wordpress.com/2012/09/09/slut-shaming-if-you-value-yourself-as-a-womanmanperson-stop-it-now/ here’s my views

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