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‎”If someone started telling stories about how my…”

‎”If someone started telling stories about how my gender was controlled by our genitalia and sexual arousal turns us into rapist automatons, I would be outraged. I would explain in very small, very loud words that I am a person and I can goddamn control myself. I wish more men would speak up to say ‘actually, even when I can’t turn my erection off, I can sure as hell use the rest of my body to put it somewhere it won’t bother anyone.’”

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“The thing is, it’s patriarchy that says men are stupid and monolithic and unchanging and incapable. It’s patriarchy that says men have animalistic instincts and just can’t stop themselves from harassing and assaulting. It’s patriarchy that says men can only be attracted by certain qualities, can only have particular kinds of responses, can only experience the world in narrow ways.

Feminism holds that men are capable of more – are more than that.”

~Chally Kacelnik

“Visionary feminism is a wise and loving politics. It is rooted in the love of male and female being, refusing to privilege one over the other. The soul of feminist politics is the commitment to ending patriarchal domination of women and men, girls and boys. Love cannot exist in any relationship that is based on domination and coercion. Males cannot love themselves in patriarchal culture if their very self-definition relies on submission to patriarchal rules. When men embrace feminist thinking and practice, which emphasizes the value of mutual growth and self-actualization in all relationships, their emotional well-being will be enhanced. A genuine feminist politics always brings us from bondage to freedom, from lovelessness to loving.”

~Bell Hooks

End patriarchy.

Because a better world for all is in our hands.


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Nico Lang: “Trampire:” Why the Public Slut Shaming of Kristen Stewart Matters for Young Women

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But for young women, the culture of slut shaming that the Kristen Stewart scandal represents won’t go away. I might not be concerned for K-Stew, but I am concerned for all the young women today who are tuned into this scandal, ones who are learning that it’s not okay to screw up, ever. Chris Brown can publicly beat the hell out of his girlfriend but still be played on the radio and win Grammys. However, if you ever cheat on your boyfriend, your life is over and no one will ever want to be associated with you. Almost no one will blame the much-older guy you cheated with, and it might actually make him more famous and help his career. Few will care that he was your boss and in a position of authority or that he may have have taken advantage of your youth and relative inexperience. Everything is your fault, and your life will be threatened over it. If you are a trampire, you will be publicly staked for it, even though cheater Ashton Kutcher recently emerged relatively unscathed by the media. No one asked for him to be fired from Two and a Half Men.

I might not be concerned for K-Stew, but I am concerned for my younger stepsister who has pictures of Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson on her walls, who idolizes and worships them, and who might grow up to hate Kristen Stewart for reasons she doesn’t understand. I’m worried she will be taught that it’s not okay to mess up, learn from it and apologize, because no one wants your apology, just your suffering on camera. I’m worried that she’ll think its okay to harass and threaten women for their indiscretions, even if men get off scot-free. I’m worried she will think this culture of bullying, slut-shaming and rhetorical violence against women is the norm, because you get a t-shirt for it. I’m worried she will learn to internalize the shame brought on far too many women today, for having sexualities, for not being perfect, for not fitting into a box. I’m worried she’ll believe men like Todd Akin, Paul Ryan and Mike Huckabee are right.

Because even if she doesn’t know who Akin, Ryan and Huckabee are, even if she doesn’t pay attention to politics or the radical right-wing GOP, she does pay attention to Twilight and Robsten. And if we want to empower her to be a strong, independently minded woman who knows that her body, sexuality and safety are legitimate and can stand up for her rights, we need to pay attention, too. This might seem ridiculous to us, and most people I know can’t wait to stop talking about it. But for her, having this conversation makes a difference. Although no young woman shouldn’t think it’s okay to cheat, what we are teaching them right now is so much worse.

Read more @ Nico Lang: “Trampire:” Why the Public Slut Shaming of Kristen Stewart Matters for Young Women.


I don’t like Robert  Pattinson or Kristin Stewart, and I think “Twilight” is a harmful piece of crap that promotes co-dependency and violence towards women.  However, that doesn’t excuse the public abuse of one young woman and her extremely stupid action. So what if she cheated on him? I think it was a crappy thing to do, yes. I’ve heard rumors that he cheated on her. Again, so what? That’s between her and him, not you and me and everyone else.

Stop sticking your gossipy noses in other people’s business and grow up a little.


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Relationship Violence in “Twilight” | Psychology Today

Relationship Violence in “Twilight” | Psychology Today

I love psychology, and I love movies. Every couple of years, I teach a class called “Psychology in Film.” When I tell people about it, they often ask, “Are there enough movies about psychology for an entire class?” My response is first shock, then slight annoyance, then my vocal response of, “Every movie is about psychology.”

An abusive future?

As my initial posting for this new blog, I’d like to focus on the “Twilight” movies (based on the books by Stephenie Meyer). In the past decade, the rise in popularity of vampire-themed books, TV shows, and movies has risen dramatically. While some vampire stories are rich with sexual and cultural lessons, the “Twilight” series, in my opinion, can be used as a display of behaviors that put people at risk for abuse in dating relationships. The popularity of the Twilight series shows just how much attention girls are giving to the examples of lovers displayed in Edward and Bella‘s world. To them, Edward represents the troubled soul who is waiting to be tamed by just the right woman; it’s the modern “Beauty and the Beast.” Unfortunately, the course and characteristics of Bella’s relationship with Edward are actually templates for violence and abuse, and Twilight fans may unwittingly model a relationship that is far from healthy. While relationship violence is extremely complicated and every case is different, some warning signs have been identified by researchers.

via Relationship Violence in “Twilight” | Psychology Today.

Paul Ryan and PCOS | entertain ideas of great communion

Paul Ryan and PCOS

This is a bit of an overshare. It’s the kind of thing that would usually be private. Unfortunately, by co-sponsoring HR 212, Paul Ryan has made my private health issue a matter of public policy.

I have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. It’s pretty sucky. Basically, it means that I have a hormonal imbalance that does all sorts of really unfortunate things to my body- acne, extra hair, weight gain. On top of that, I get my period really rarely. Like, maybe three times a year. That may sound alright (the fewer periods the better, am I right ladies?), but when I do get them, I have incredible amounts of pain. Plus, and this is more important to me, my chances of getting pregnant naturally are pretty tiny.

One of the problems with getting a period so rarely (which is actually a condition called oligomenorrhea) is that it puts you at a higher risk of getting uterine cancer. So on top of all the rest of the horribleness that is PCOS, you are at a higher risk of cancer.

PCOS is pretty common. It’s estimated that between 5 and 10% of women of reproductive age have it. It’s the most common endocrine disorder for women in that age bracket. It’s also incurable.

But it is treatable.

One of the most common and effective treatments of the side-effects of PCOS is the Pill. It treats a bunch of the symptoms. My skin clears up. I lose weight. But, more importantly, I get my period regularly, which means it hurts less and, best of all, reduces my chance of getting endometrial cancer.

But Republican VP candidate Paul Ryan doesn’t care about any of that. He doesn’t care about preventing pain or reducing the risk of cancer. He wants to ban the oral conceptive pill because he thinks a fertilized egg should have all the protections of a human being.

You can see how ridiculous this is in my case. He would ban me from being able to access medical care I need because of a POTENTIAL fertilized egg. The fertilized egg doesn’t even exist. The fertilized egg has a very slim chance of ever existing naturally, due to my PCOS. But he’s so concerned about that potential, he’d prevent me from having access to the care I need.

And you know what, if I did want to have a kid, he’d like to sincerely limit my options there too, because he’d ban IVF.

Paul Ryan is an extremist. For all the talk about small government, he’d like to interfere with my doctor’s capacity to treat my chronic condition. That’s about as big as government gets.

Vote Obama in 2012. Do it for the women with PCOS who deserve access to medical care.

via Paul Ryan and PCOS | entertain ideas of great communion.

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This Above All: To Thine Own Self, Be True

1. what makes you feel most alive?
Breathing. Sex with my love, and the afterglow. Seeing a really beautiful thing/happening, something that evokes that sense of exhiliration.

2.describe your best kiss.
The soft, slow warm kiss with arms wrapped around each other, and looking up to see your lover’s eyes full of that mixture of sweet love and deep lust.

3.can you love someone without loving yourself?
Sometimes. But I think that sort of love has a very short shelf life. Better to learn to love yourself first, and then worry about finding your counterpart.

4.what’s your favorite physical possession?
Having lost most of my possessions this last year, I have to say the sentimental things. The old birthday cards made by my mum, the calendar from my older brother three years ago, the tissue paper flower from my youngest nephew for Mother’s Day, the fairy picture my oldest sister gave me some years ago, the leather and bead bracelet my older sister made me, the tiny pic of my younger brother taken with the Game Boy camera we used to have. I had to leave the rose vases my love sent me, but I remember them. ❤ you think you live in the past, present, or future?
Present, with heavy past influences that I try my damnedest not to let dictate the future. you prefer dating someone you’ve known for a long time, or have met recently?
I’ve never been on a date. Lol But I’d have to say the first one.

7.complete the sentence: “in a perfect world…”
In a perfect world, one would need never to utter the words “in a perfect world”.

8.could you enjoy sex without committing emotionally?
I think I could. But why would I?

9.what’s your earliest memory?
My dad holding a toddler me, taking me around our dining room to turn the light button (not switches, buttons AND THEY WERE COOL) on and off. It’s a good memory, and the only conscious one I have of him.

10.what’s something you’ll never understand about the opposite sex?
This question has become difficult for me to answer since growing up and becoming aware of the LGBTQ communities. I find myself thinking of this question in terms of other human differences, and there are lots of thing I’ll never understand about other people. For instance, how can one rape someone? How can a person commit that act, and never once think that it might be wrong or horrific? I’ll never understand that mindset. do you define the concept of a soul?
Awareness of self and others’ mortality, wants, and needs. Awareness of being a single entity within a group.

“I think, therefore I am.”

“I see you, and I feel your pain.”

“What about me?”

“I scream, you scream, we all scream for ice cream.”

12.on a scale of one to ten, how would you rate your appearance?
Seven. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, but I’m not ugly. would you define your sense of humor?
Childish, crude, dirty, punny, dry, intelligent. It’s a mix.

14.if someone were to serenade you to win you over, what song would they sing?

15.are you more concerned with taste or calories when you eat?
Taste. It’s always taste. do you decide when to let go of something?
It’s usually about survival. you believe in fate?
Most often not. But I have seen things that defy that.

18.if you could tell something to an ex, what would you say?
I don’t have an ex. Lol But to the one that came closest, maybe I’d say “thank you”.

19.what does the third text in your inbox say?
Which inbox? Ha. It’s a email: Custom Clothing, Creative Furniture, Choose Your Own Adventure, Xonex Art Supplies…

20.what are five things that make you cry?
a. Hormones

b. Sad things

c. Emotional Pain

d. Physical Pain, if it’s bad enough
e. Hormones

21.have you ever considered suicide?
Yeah, but I couldn’t do it. It was my own personal cowardice, and childish thinking, that made me even consider it. I say “cowardice”, but I know it was also that little spark of life that burns inside, that contrary and indignant piece of me that raised it’s head and said “NO. FUCKING. WAY.” that stubbornly keeps me going.

22.does the end justify the means?
No, is what I used to tell myself when I was younger and the world was seen in black and white. But now that I’ve grown up, I’ve realized there are at least one or two ends that do justify the means. We don’t live in a pretty world, and I’ve come to accept that ugly fact.

23.what was the last dream you can remember about?
It’s really hazy. Something about my best online friend, and some weird place, and cutting my hair. Or maybe those are separate dreams, I don’t know. I’ve been trying to not remember my dreams.

24.would you be more hurt by a partner having an emotional affair or a physical affair?
Emotional. But the physical would ramp up my ocd tendencies and germ phobia. And then there’d be hell to pay. you think your astrological sign suits you?
Very closely.

26.what’s something a person should know before dating you?
I’m a mess. Lol you believe in life after death?
I think there’s something like that. I won’t be surprised if there isn’t though. 😀

28.what historical period would you most like to live in?
Unfortunately, this one. you prefer to stand out or blend in?
Depends on my mood.

30.what kind of drunk are you?
I’ve never been drunk.

31.what’s a trait that you hate in a person?

32.if you could sleep with any fictional character, who would you do?
Sleep. Hog the covers. Drool a little.

33.which of your five senses could you live without?
Scent. My nose is too damn sensitive to the point where when I ignore the olfactory onslaught so intensely I can’t smell anything at all. I have difficulty finding that happy medium. has your taste in music changed in the past years?
It hasn’t, it’s just broadened. As it should. 🙂

35.what’s your favorite fairy tale?
I’m not big on fairy tales. Not since learning what they’re really about. Cannibalism, rape, torture, kidnapping, murder, imprisonment? No, thank you.

36.are looks important in a relationship?
To a degree. We are a highly-visual species that is supposedly highly-evolved. Let’s try to not hate anyone based on their appearance, ok?

37.which parent are you more like?
Mum is who I grew up with, so Mum, I suppose. you prefer to fuck or make love?
Aren’t you a nosy little bastard?

39.were you to have children, what would you name them?
I don’t know. I don’t think I’ll have my own kids. I’m getting old and my patience is being worn away by the one child I do have. God knows I love the little bugger, but omg he’s defiant and contrary! Lol general, do you prefer to ask or get asked?
What kind of candyass q is this?

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