… to keep your cool.
It is surprisingly easy to lose your cool, and to react to minor stresses and to irritating people.
However, most of us would rather feel relaxed and in control, and the following guidelines can
help us reach this goal.
1. Keep things in perspective: Often we catastrophise or over-react when the issue or
offense is insignificant. Here, it is best to force yourself to take a balanced approach and remind
yourself, “it’s minor, and not worth the energy!”
2. Visualise yourself coping: Take a few deep breaths and let your feelings settle down. Draw
a mental picture of a calm, unflustered “you”, who takes their time to respond and is able to
cope. Then, in a calm, low voice – with a few well chosen words – respond as you would like, so
you maintain your self-respect.
3. Be aware of your triggers: When someone pushes our buttons we generally react.
However, if we know what those are then we can regain control, and can practice how to cope
when our feelings are stirred. Also, if we’re tired or hungry, feeling cold, or over-stretched then
we’re much more likely to over-react.
4. Create a calm environment: Stay one step ahead by preparing yourself for inevitable
setbacks and infuriating people. For example, play some music in the car, or take a walk during
lunch, or keep some photos in your office of the people that you love.
5. Distract yourself: When you feel the pressure building, or you start to ruminate, think of
something that’s amusing, or a fun event you’ve planned.
These are just a few suggestions to help you stay detached so that stresses and people don’t
make you lose your cool.
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Tom Morello: ‘Paul Ryan Is the Embodiment of the Machine Our Music Rages Against’ | Music News | Rolling Stone
I wonder what Ryan’s favorite Rage song is? Is it the one where we condemn the genocide of Native Americans? The one lambasting American imperialism? Our cover of “Fuck the Police”? Or is it the one where we call on the people to seize the means of production? So many excellent choices to jam out to at Young Republican meetings!
Don’t mistake me, I clearly see that Ryan has a whole lotta “rage” in him: A rage against women, a rage against immigrants, a rage against workers, a rage against gays, a rage against the poor, a rage against the environment. Basically the only thing he’s not raging against is the privileged elite he’s groveling in front of for campaign contributions.
My hope is that maybe Paul Ryan is a mole. Maybe Rage did plant some sensible ideas in this extreme fringe right wing nut job. Maybe if elected, he’ll pardon Leonard Peltier. Maybe he’ll throw U.S. military support behind the Zapatistas. Maybe he’ll fill Guantanamo Bay with the corporate criminals that are funding his campaign – and then torture them with Rage music 24/7. That’s one possibility. But I’m not betting on it.
They come from the cities
And they come from the smaller towns
Beat up cars with guitars and drummers
Goin crack boom bam
Voices from nowhere
And voices from the larger towns
Filled our head full of dreams
Turned the world upside down
feel so hypnotized, can’t describe the scene
feel so mesmerized all that inside me
the sunshine bores the daylights out of me
chasing shadows, blue light mystery
headed for the overload, splattered on the dirty road
kick me like you’ve kicked before
i can’t even feel the pain no more
–‘rocks off‘, rolling stones
Whatever gets you through the night.
“be my magic carpet ride
fly me down to capitol city
been kickin’ up a storm
from the day that i was born
sing a song for me
one from ‘let it be’
open up your eyes
get a grip on yourself inside”
-‘be here now‘, oasis
This was one of those great songs that spoke to me when I was younger, oh-so-much younger; it was a song I could listen to when everything went down the toilet, which happened every other day it seems like. I spent my days and nights tuned into the new local alternative music station, and while there are some good and sometimes great 90’s music, most were mediocre in my opinion.
So why did I listen? Because they anchored me to the then-present and kept me going. And that was something I desperately needed, even when they were slightly darker lyrics.
Maybe especially the darker lyrics.
“me and myself killed a world today
me and myself got a world to save
broadcast dead revolution don’t pay
strapped up freaks on the lazarus plane
i can tell just by the climate
and i can tell just by the style
i was born and raised on venus
and i may be here a while
and every supersonic jerkoff who plugs into the game
is just like every subatomic genius who just invented pain
i will deny you
i will deny you, baby
i will deny you… “
-‘negasonic teenage warhead‘, monster magnet