But the danger we perceive doesn’t actually have to be there. We just have to think that it is.
Whether the danger is real or imagined, our automatic survival mechanisms will kick in and we will try to escape or avoid the danger.
We might avoid certain people or places. We might refuse to go out. Perhaps we’ll only go out with someone else present and then leave early.
Whilst our coping behaviours get us through the perceived danger, they actually keep our anxiety going. As long as we depend on them to cope, we don’t give ourselves the opportunity for the anxiety to go away on its own.
Learning to confront our anxiety might be uncomfortable in the short term, but it helps us take control and feel better in the long term.
If you feel anxiety starting to overwhelm you, ask yourself if you have any proof that what you fear is actually going to happen. What is the worst that could happen and how would you cope with it if it did? Imagine it is six months from now. How important will this feel then?
Just because you feel bad, doesn’t mean things really are bad. Imagine yourself coping with this situation. If you can handle it in your imagination, you can handle it in reality.
via Inner Child Healing.
He’s always been 16 years older than me. The scrawny teenage boy that took responsibility for a baby girl with nobody to help him at all. I’ve had a young father my entire life. Even now in his mid forties, he’s still young. But tonight when we were talking about adult things, and by adult things I mean he went into the random discussion of, “if i pass away i want this as my funeral” topic. We always joked that when he went senile and rolling around in a wheel chair i’d be right behind him. Because after all, we’re not that far apart in age. He had a serious face this time though. This conversation was serious, the topic was serious, he was being serious. We were discussing wills, splitting of assets, everything. I asked him if he had some death defying adventures scheduled, but I knew once he got diagnosed with diabetes two years ago his health has declined some. He wanted me prepared. Prepared to the aspect that eventually, he will die, despite all the birthday cards he owns assuring him that he’s an invincible superhero.
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