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‎”If someone started telling stories about how my gender was controlled by our genitalia and sexual arousal turns us into rapist automatons, I would be outraged. I would explain in very small, very loud words that I am a person and I can goddamn control myself. I wish more men would speak up to say ‘actually, even when I can’t turn my erection off, I can sure as hell use the rest of my body to put it somewhere it won’t bother anyone.’”

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Stop The Hate

"If you want to stop this Culture of Violence, then don't encourage sick images like this."

“If you want to stop this Culture of Violence, then don’t encourage sick images like this.”

 

Slut Dropping: the Slut-Shaming Craze “For Lulz”

“Of all the retarded ideas guys think up during their 20s, this one takes the cake. News of a practice called “Slut Dropping” is sweeping the world, a new “fun”, sexist “game of lulz” seemingly started in the UK by a gang of fucking idiots who don’t give two iotas of a fuck about a girl’s safety.

In the wake of Melbourne Australia‘s Jill Meagher tragic saga, this should be sure to pinch a nerve in many a reader:

Slut Dropping or Slut Dumping is the act of a car load of guys (or girls too, don’t put it past them) who, during the early hours of a morning when girls are leaving clubs and bars, drive up to them and offer them a lift. They coax the girl into accepting. She gets in the car. They then proceed to do a U-turn and instead drive the girl as far away from the direction of travel she wishes to go in, as possible.

The young men forcefully prevent her from leaving the car, ignoring her demands for them to stop, all the while laughing and hooting like a pack of Nitro-Jagermeister addicts at her expense. When they’ve driven to a satisfactorily far enough location, they drop the girl off in the middle of nowhere and drive off, leaving her to find her way home, alone.”

Disgusting… absolutely disgusting. Here’s the link: http://www.facebook.com/SlutDropping

 

Nico Lang: “Trampire:” Why the Public Slut Shaming of Kristen Stewart Matters for Young Women

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But for young women, the culture of slut shaming that the Kristen Stewart scandal represents won’t go away. I might not be concerned for K-Stew, but I am concerned for all the young women today who are tuned into this scandal, ones who are learning that it’s not okay to screw up, ever. Chris Brown can publicly beat the hell out of his girlfriend but still be played on the radio and win Grammys. However, if you ever cheat on your boyfriend, your life is over and no one will ever want to be associated with you. Almost no one will blame the much-older guy you cheated with, and it might actually make him more famous and help his career. Few will care that he was your boss and in a position of authority or that he may have have taken advantage of your youth and relative inexperience. Everything is your fault, and your life will be threatened over it. If you are a trampire, you will be publicly staked for it, even though cheater Ashton Kutcher recently emerged relatively unscathed by the media. No one asked for him to be fired from Two and a Half Men.

I might not be concerned for K-Stew, but I am concerned for my younger stepsister who has pictures of Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson on her walls, who idolizes and worships them, and who might grow up to hate Kristen Stewart for reasons she doesn’t understand. I’m worried she will be taught that it’s not okay to mess up, learn from it and apologize, because no one wants your apology, just your suffering on camera. I’m worried that she’ll think its okay to harass and threaten women for their indiscretions, even if men get off scot-free. I’m worried she will think this culture of bullying, slut-shaming and rhetorical violence against women is the norm, because you get a t-shirt for it. I’m worried she will learn to internalize the shame brought on far too many women today, for having sexualities, for not being perfect, for not fitting into a box. I’m worried she’ll believe men like Todd Akin, Paul Ryan and Mike Huckabee are right.

Because even if she doesn’t know who Akin, Ryan and Huckabee are, even if she doesn’t pay attention to politics or the radical right-wing GOP, she does pay attention to Twilight and Robsten. And if we want to empower her to be a strong, independently minded woman who knows that her body, sexuality and safety are legitimate and can stand up for her rights, we need to pay attention, too. This might seem ridiculous to us, and most people I know can’t wait to stop talking about it. But for her, having this conversation makes a difference. Although no young woman shouldn’t think it’s okay to cheat, what we are teaching them right now is so much worse.

Read more @ Nico Lang: “Trampire:” Why the Public Slut Shaming of Kristen Stewart Matters for Young Women.

 

I don’t like Robert  Pattinson or Kristin Stewart, and I think “Twilight” is a harmful piece of crap that promotes co-dependency and violence towards women.  However, that doesn’t excuse the public abuse of one young woman and her extremely stupid action. So what if she cheated on him? I think it was a crappy thing to do, yes. I’ve heard rumors that he cheated on her. Again, so what? That’s between her and him, not you and me and everyone else.

Stop sticking your gossipy noses in other people’s business and grow up a little.

 

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Relationship Violence in “Twilight” | Psychology Today

Relationship Violence in “Twilight” | Psychology Today

I love psychology, and I love movies. Every couple of years, I teach a class called “Psychology in Film.” When I tell people about it, they often ask, “Are there enough movies about psychology for an entire class?” My response is first shock, then slight annoyance, then my vocal response of, “Every movie is about psychology.”

An abusive future?

As my initial posting for this new blog, I’d like to focus on the “Twilight” movies (based on the books by Stephenie Meyer). In the past decade, the rise in popularity of vampire-themed books, TV shows, and movies has risen dramatically. While some vampire stories are rich with sexual and cultural lessons, the “Twilight” series, in my opinion, can be used as a display of behaviors that put people at risk for abuse in dating relationships. The popularity of the Twilight series shows just how much attention girls are giving to the examples of lovers displayed in Edward and Bella‘s world. To them, Edward represents the troubled soul who is waiting to be tamed by just the right woman; it’s the modern “Beauty and the Beast.” Unfortunately, the course and characteristics of Bella’s relationship with Edward are actually templates for violence and abuse, and Twilight fans may unwittingly model a relationship that is far from healthy. While relationship violence is extremely complicated and every case is different, some warning signs have been identified by researchers.

via Relationship Violence in “Twilight” | Psychology Today.

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